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July 14, 2005

Severe pain from 'overdoing' today

Wow, did my body scream at me today! In fact it's still a dull roar!!

Frank's best friend is a magician, and he's doing so well that he's doing almost 1/2 time construction (down from full) and 1/2 time magic shows. He's performed at various Vegas locations. He also does shows for schools, as well as being a restaurant's 'entertainment' sometimes.

The first time I saw his magician side was at a restaurant where he was going table to table doing a coin trick and a card trick or two. He was great.

Well he'd asked Frank and I to come help him out this AM at a school. He asked if we'd video the performance, with minimal screwups, and get some still shots too. He's really now extremely good and he's a great guy and so we said yes. I actually got up at 7am (yikes) to go and help Gary set up and then, here comes the kicker...

I stood behind the camera, which was on a tripod on a cafeteria table, for 45 minutes. YIKES!! My hip and leg are killing me. Vicodin takes the edge off,...that's all. We actually had to leave his house without viewing the video because I was in screaming agony (I didn't completely show it til in the car with just Frank).

We're 'hitting' another school (we're Gary's 'roadies' now! LOL) next Thursday, so we're gonna get together before that and evaluate and see what's usable and what's not and what needs to be done better. We're also gonna go early and set up for some still photographs. I took some today, hope they turned out ok, I was back a bit. But the lighting was good, so that appears to have been enough for the digital photos.

Fun, Fun, ..... my favorite things, close friends or family and photography. Just hope I don't get canned after today's videography. I have this recurrent worry that I didn't have the record button down the whole time.........yikes!

Will update you........today was pretty cool, the show was worth the time and effort even with the early hour and the back pain.

He wants us to help him set up a website. Can anyone recommend a free website locaton where there's a little help setting it up for him to use?? We use yahoo/geocities for our family pics, but I've noticed others with free websites????????

Back to apply Blue Stuff to hip and thigh and take one more vicodin, (it's bee hours).

Hoping and praying tomorrow will be a better day.

Hugs and Blessings, Judy

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July 5, 2005

Fibromyalgia Depression hits after Vacation

I'm really trying to not let depression set in in this lull after our vacation. It's easy to miss the kids. It's easy to miss having fun stuff to do. It's easy to go back to bed in the afternoon, even though the Cymbalta has my energy up and no nap is 'required', back to bed because I'm I feel lonely and sad. Frank is going through this depression worse than I am, as it was his kids and grandkids we left. It kills him to have to leave them, yet that's just part of the deal of living across the country. Us move to Maine from AZ?, no way. I don't do snow. And the girls' mom has them hoodwinked and either dependent on her for financial assistance (Evie) or tied to her apron strings (Chrystal), so the idea of them coming here for college died years ago.

I've fussed with the family photos about as much as I can. I edited and printed copies for everyone and made mini albums for the kids and Frank's mom and one for us. Then I figured out the Adobe photoshop creates photo albums which we can put captions on and control how many pics to a page and I've made 2 albums: 1 of the Walmart portraits we had taken with all the kids in different combos (which Evie will pick up the real deals on 7/7), and 1 album of my photos.

When I finished the photo projects today, I felt kinda stuck, kinda numb, prime for depression again. No more photo fun & carressing the pics to eek out every memory, and I didn't feel like folding laundry! So I watched TV, nothing special, til the fireworks show, but something to curl up on the couch with anyway. And Frank, when he isn't talking to the kids or his mom, plays a card game on the computer and sometimes Evie joins the game at the same time and they chat while playing,and when he's tired of the game, he reverts to the couch with me.

We did talk to the kids tonight (Chrystal and Garrett). They, Chrystal and bf, Richard, and Garrett and summer fling gf, Rita, and Chrystal's friend Lilly who is also making a play for Garrett(???), drove to Deer Isle, Maine, connected by a suspension bridge to Sedgwick that's pretty impressive, for the 4th Fireworks. Garrett enjoyed seeing them over the water for the first time, wish we were still there! We just watched the Tempe Town Lake show on TV at 9:20 for 40mins on TV.

I asked Frank tonight if we did the right thing in letting Garrett stay in Maine for the summer, as he and Chrystal wanted that time to bond more... should we have said, no you are coming home as planned.. He would have a job already that we'd taxi him to as he studied for and got a drivers' permit, then license. He wouldn't have to worry about working to get the airfare increase in order to come home, which he says he's doing. And here, he'd be seeing girlfriend, Rachel and we'd be aware of their relationship... maybe being farther away is easier on that one!

(IHOP is hiring and we have become friendly with 2 servers who are 'certified trainers' who said they'd be a reference for him and train him, before they leave for college in Tucson 7/31...oh well)(and his friend Steven called our first day back and Frank had the idea Garrett was getting the Dairy Queen job, if he'd been home).

Or, I asked Frank, is it better to have given the kids, Chrystal and Garrett, what they wanted and let him stay for them to bond, and let them learn the life lessons of living together, and socializing together, and working(?), and getting to know each other beyond 'vacation'. And maybe becoming disillusioned with expectations of each other.

Frank voted for 'life lessons', and I guess I do too.
It's awfully quiet around here without Garrett though!
Usually if I was down, Frank had Garrett to goof around with and run errands. Now it's just us again.

Actually, I think the time alone is good for our relationship, for us to reconnect as US. We get out to our respective Moms and to the Super Walmart and that's about it.

I spent 2 days with my mom last week because she has some kind of flu bug or infection and was alone as Jen was working and my sister was in all day classes, and Mom called weepy and sorry to bother me but she thought she needed some gatorade & bananas. And the other day, before, she was weak and didn't want to be alone. This is rare for Mom to be sick, probably all the stress of the divorce weakened her.

And Frank was at his Mom's Saturday, while I was with mine, then Sunday night we both went to his mom's, Dorothy, for dinner, escarole & pasta & loads of parmesan/romano, it's good stuff. As for the 4th, we don't do crowds so we watched it on TV, Frank's digestive issues need us to be near a restroom, and my pain and anxiety stuff prohibit a lot of exertion.

We do love movies, who doesn't?, and since we can't seem to get out to them, due to our health issues, I joined that NetFlix thing where they mail you 2 choices and you get a new one every time you send one back, unlimited per month. It's less $ than one outing to the movies, and we don't go broke buying all the new releases to see them. I'm gonna do some date night ambience- you know the smell of stale popcorn, GIANT sodas in our theater cups (large drinks only $1 when we take with us), maybe train the dogs to kick the back of Frank's spot on the couch, LOL.

We don't even have any doc appts this week. Though I am driving my mom to the doctor whenever she can get in tomorrow, Tuesday. She's too weak, & to boot, my sister borrowed Mom's car and then picked up her own car at the dealership after repairs and left Mom's car there, so Mom is stranded. My sister never stops infuriating me. (Lisa is 11 mos younger than me and my total opposite in personality)

Anyway, starting our 3rd week back, feeling more rested and more like me, and I hope Mom gets better and nobody else gets sick. I hope to settle back into life here. I'm hoping this week will have less longing for the kids and vacation days. And I'm praying the depression cloud looming over us goes away.

Hugs and Blessings, Judy

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July 3, 2005

Does Fibromyalgia suppress immune systems

Well, I don't know.

I have had this disease for 7+ years and over the years I have cared for my daughter, now 19, and my mom, and my husband and I didn't always necessarily get anything.

They try to keep me away. They try to protect me. Oh well, nobody is keeping me from my daughter's side when she is sick, same for my husband and my mom.

My mom has a wicked flu-y thing right now, stomach (yuck hate that kind). She was weak and needed stuff and someone yesterday and I went to her and took care of her. (My Jen has been caring for her as well as my sister who stops by.) Jen had a mono-like virus in the winter and I went and stayed with her and took care of her.

Now I do take precautions. I wash my hands constantly and don't drink/eat after & don't kiss on the lips (which we do, we're southern gals and just do). But I do kiss on the forehead to evaluate fevers, and hold my daughter in my lap and pet her head and hold my mom's hand.

I'm NOT getting this thing from Mom. I didn't get anything from Jen's 2 bouts with the bug in the winter. I have gotten the flu and a cold and it stinks to have that on top of FMS bodywide pain and fatigue and being unable to sleep....add single nostril breathing and or vomiting and life with FMS is beyond something I feel I can 'handle'.

I handle life with FMS, without other complications. I have to. I rest, perhaps that's why I don't get some stuff. And the vitamins, etc. that are part of my medical regimen, they probably help.

So I guess it depends on the person and the bug.....no solid answer here.

Just be careful, and WASH YOUR HANDS. And if you're newly dx'd, err on the side of being really careful and Take Care of Yourself!

Off to rest,
Hugs and Blessings, Judy

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