October 10, 2005

Hello, update after absence, x-rays

Hi all, It's nice to be back here. I can't believe that I was complaining about pain and fatigue on 7/14 and on 7/21 my Mom was admitted to the ER for misc. symptoms and she ended up having 5 artery Coronary Bypass surgery on 7/24. She was in the hospital with a few days home before getting a leg infected, from 7/21-8/11. My life revolved around the hospital. Mom's sister came from Arkansas and she and I cared for Mom once Mom came home. Mom's doing really well now. Still building stamina and activities. She has one wound still healing, very close!, and when that's healed she can go to the cardiac rehab program at the hospital.

I hate to report that when I came home from the hospital on 7/25 and was exhausted and scattered from being in the ICU with Mom for 9 hours and from the previous 4 days stress..... well, Frank, my life partner was less that supportive and got verbally abusive, threatening to leave, and pushed me. That was that. I told him to leave. After 6 years, I never thought he'd put a hand on me in anger, or that he'd be so lacking in compassion so as to whine that I didn't have 5 minutes 'for him', that night. OMG! So... that night I moved from the house (my house) to my daughter's apt. then 2 days later to Mom's when my aunt arrived, and I've been here since. Frank and his son were OUT of the house on 9/24 and I started packing up 9/25 and finished 10/4. I'm living with Mom and we're quite happy together.

I'm selling my house as I'm unable to keep it up and pay my share here. Luckily the real estate market may be very kind to me. Dumb luck. The house should be ready to show on 10/18 and let's pray it sells quickly at a fair price.

I had to get rid of my beloved dogs, even before Frank could leave the house or I could consider calling a realtor. Friends adopted my yellow lab (female 6), and a woman approved as adoptive 'parent' by White German Shepherd rescue group adopted my Suzie, white shepherd and husky mix. They're both safe and happy.

I do miss Frank. It's not like I was miserable forever, nor was I rash in making my decision. We'd had fights since 1/2005. I think he was stressed by having his teen son in the house and the raising of him. Frank would get mad and threaten to leave (he has nothing??). He even did that on our vacation to Maine in June..."When we get back to AZ I'm moving out!"...I called him on that then and he backed down and claimed stress from dealing with his daughters there. His 'pushing' me, was the last straw, along with his 3 threats to leave that night.

So, I'm finally moving in here, with Mom's living room FULL of boxes. And I'm starting to adjust to and feel the results of the breakup. I was more focused on the dogs and the house before because he kept making me angry. He's being really sweet now, of course.

Anyway, that's what's been going on here.....

Glad to be back,
Love and Blessings, Judy

BTW Did go and get bone density test and hip xrays because of severe hip pain and want to rule out 'stuff' not assuming it's the FMS... hopefully the news isn't too bad.

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