Paying bills on my own, learning to be a phenomenal family
So.... been trying to do more on my own, without letting the others take over, right? Trying to have more control over my own life. So I have been trying to make sure I do the bills and handle money-- its always been a HUGE, great big trigger for me-- LONG,complicated story. LONG. VERY COMPLICATED. . ANYWAY, Missy usually handles the money and the bills. She handles it much better, she doesn't get triggered, she doesn't get suicidal just by writing out a check, she doesn't end up in tears just getting a receipt. :( But I've been trying to do better. So I have been trying to do the bills the past 2 months.WELL WELL WELL. today i got a notice in the mail that there's like something negative going to be on my credit report because of a late car payment or something. :( My husband just saw it on the table (before I did) and he got all mad. His face turned BRIGHT RED and he just stood there stock still and scared me half to death. i just can't do it as good as Missy does. i feel really really discouraged. :( i will try to do the bills again this month but I just really dont want to. she is better at it. i am having flashbacks of stuff that has to do with my dad and money. i dont want to go into it. i dont have anything good to say about money. both my sister and i have both said before that we wish there was no such thing.i want to do this RIGHT. i wanted to do this just as good as Missy or BETTER. But Missy never got a notice from the bank.
i feel really super stupid.
pilgrim
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We're trying to make some major changes inside, because stuff has been out of control for far too long. Been reading this book by Dr Phil McGraw called Family First which has some much-needed and appropriate guidelines for making a "phenomenal family"...for "real (3D)" families. Well, what we're working on is a group of INSIDERS. And none of us are thrilled about calling it a family. Trying to think of something else to call us all. Don't want to be a "flock" like that one book-- cuz we are NOT birds . Don't want to be a "company"-- that implies there's a boss, and as SadGirl says "bosses are mean". what we're trying to come up with is a word that implies that everyone is equal, living together, trying to get along, ya know?anyone have ideas?
Carol
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edit (next day)
Turns out I didn't screw up after all! My husband came home tonight with flowers and and apology for getting mad last night. It turns out the letter was wrong-- he spoke to customer service this morning, and the letters that went out to people were poorly worded-- what the letters were meant to say was that IF payments were received late, THEN we would get letters saying it was going on the credit record. It wasn't a letter saying that it HAD happened, just that this is what WOULD happen in the future-- this went out to lots of the bank members.*whew* thank goodness. I also really appreciated my husband's apology and the one from the customer service person as well.Yay, i didn't screw up!
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That was kind of a strange thing to say, Im a little embarrassed,I was very drunk when I wrote it and heavily medicated too I might add. Teresa
Men are asses and always assume the wrong thing. Happens to me too. But not to worry, flowers make it all better (sarcastic). "Yeah, hand over the flowers, it doesn't make you less of an ass to me". :-D I am so negative.You're doing really good working on all this stuff inside. I don't know how you do it. Just the thought of having to do all that boggles my mind. I wish we could talk more.Love,Your Sis
Good for you,Im glad it all worked out,see I told you your smart. Teresa
Why would you think your stupid,Missys a part of you,you all use the same mind. Ive never paid a bill in my life and Ive never been to college,hell I bearly made it through highschool and you think your stupid,I dont think so. I wish there was a part of me that could go to college and have a career.Missy wouldnt be so bad if she werent such a bitch. Carolines pretty smart,why cant she help with the bills? Listen,you have it all,your strong,your smart,your sweet,so dont be so hard on yourself. Ill see ya later. Teresa