Hello Pilgram, I think its good to have a therapist that you can trust and can count on however I dont approve of her telling you that shes frustrated with you,your the one who should be frustrated.If she says shes done everything she can to help you and its still not working then I would probably consider getting a new therapist. She acts as if your the one letting her down but its her job to help you with your way of thinking and to find solutions to help you improve.But I think its a good thing that she listens to you and that you can trust her.Have you told her that you cut yourself, what does she say about that? I wish you would seek treatment for that,it really upsets me to think of you sitting there all alone bleeding.You really should try to stop burning yourself,I burned myself a few times at work a few years ago and I got a severe staff infection,it was horrible,its like having chicken pox or something and your entire body breaks out in a horrible rash. Anyway I hope your headache gets better soon,Ill talk to you later,bye. Teresa

Oh sweet Pilgrim,

Your posts on self injury were enlightening. Thank you for sharing so well the why, how, & what of SI i your life.

I am still worried about you, as the SI seems to be escalating, Honey, you could really seriously hurt yourself. You don't want to cause nerve damage or other like consequences, do you?

I am heartened to read the post on why and how S has been trustworthy and nonjudgmental with you. Please, Please talk to her, you are on the verge, you want to.....so talk to her, spill out words and she can help you deal with feelings and hopefully SI won't be quite as 'necessary' to you.

I care and want you safe.

Big Safe Hugs, Judy

Hi...

I'll give my best shot at some advice. Your honesty about your selves and your feelings really makes me want to help in any way I can.

My girlfriend is currently going through some heavy problems with depression and self injury, and her therapist gave her some coping advice that she found incredibly useful:

"If you feel like you shouldn't feel happy, or that you have no motivation to make yourself happy, try writing a list of things that you *have* to do each day... nice things that is, like a lovely bath, or reading your favourite book."

I don't know how that will work with respect to your other selves, but if it's possible for you all to agree on the list, it may be of help?

Other than that, I can only only think to say that your therapist sounds like she can be trusted. It's obvious from what you have said that she is completely honest and open with you, so however hard it may be, trusting her back will almost defnitely be a positive thing.

Thank you Paul for the advice. We will certainly try it. :)