When a child is suicidal
What can I do?
I dont even know.
I just dont even know.
SadGirl is facing some really hard stuff. I know she's doing play therapy and talking to my T a lot. I dont know exactly what's going on... theyre talking about the Big Bad Wolf... who comes in and scares little baby girls and bites them. I am not sure what else. SadGirl is so upset. She wants to die. I think she told our T this tonight. It obviously didn't do much good because she was left behind. I dont know whats going on. SadGirl's screaming inside but won't make any noise.
My head is hurting so bad.
i'm nobody.
i'm nobody.
i'm nobody.
worthless.
stupid.
left behind.
no one is going to notice if i'm not at work tomorrow.
we're going to hide away.
SadGirl says we have to hide. the bad wolf is coming. we have to hide.
Posted by pilgrim | Filed under:
What DO you do when a child or other insider is suicidal????
More than one of you might have suicidal tendencies, but what do you DO when the little one wants to die and plans on killing herself? does everyone want to go down with the child?
And what is a friend to DO if they become aware of the child's feelings and intentions...call & tell on her? call & talk her 'down'? call a suicide hotline in your state and have them call you???
This was my dilemma.
Well, luckily in this case Sad Girl was online Thurs night after her therapy session ended with her very upset and her being left behind 'alone' by her T. She was very upset with everyone inside leaving her alone as well as the T leaving at the therapy end.
And as Pilgrim wrote it was a traumatic session for Sad Girl, she was acting out bad things that had happened to her with toy people and houses. Chatting she said that she was bad and that because she was bad she hurt so badly in her heart and she can't cry so she had to die; that no one cares about her, they left her alone, she could kill the body with herself if nobody else is around. She talked of self harm, burning, she knows how to make a fire in the fireplace, she talked about getting into the fire...which she thought she could fit in in her child size..which scared me that she might start a house fire.
Again telling her that she was not a bad little girl, that bad things happened but it wasn't her fault, that the bad things did not make her bad. I asked her to be brave and rest some before she did anything. It was quite late and finally she agreed to lie down and hide in the living room and I believe fell asleep, not having hurt herself.
What do we do as friends and family when a loved one hurts?? Listen, listen actively, really listen and try to diffuse the situation and support better choices if possible.....Thank You God for speaking through me to Sad Girl. We can't do these things alone.
Hugs and Blessings, Love Judy
oh good lord. there are advertisements for "big bad wolf costumes" on here now.
that ought to terrify Mae even more if she sees that. dammit.