One of them is a Codependents Anonymous and one is a group through our church. Yesterday I was very surprised to find myself sitting there in a CoDa meeting. Apparently my therapist suggested I go... and jo and Caroline had a lot of problems with it. I don't really. The 12 step stuff is okay I guess... I don't mind it as much as they do. Of course I was also surprised to walk outside afterwards to find out that I now have a red car and not a blue SUV anymore. Wow am I ever mixed up. I think that I have gotten confused and not been around for a while as myself. So... I was in this meeting, I guess its ok, but Jo can have those meetings to herself.
Especially since they are early on Saturday mornings.

So then this evening my husband and I finally joined a family group through our church, which we've been talking about doing for years, but I just wasn't ready for. We tried to go several years ago to a different family group, but if I remember correctly I would fall asleep there and I'd also shut down. I don't remember much at all, except for standing in a kitchen one time, and then another time him waking me up on someone's couch and telling me we could go home. So now we've joined someone else's group, and they are really nice people who live near us. There were quite a few families there with a lot of kids. I was really quiet because it was overwhelming, noisy, and something on the stove smelled like vinegar which really overwhelmed my senses. But I did answer questions if someone asked me something directly, so I think that's an improvement. Mae and Jo and I were all switching back and forth, but we were all working together and knew what was going on the whole time, so it was okay. Everyone knew what was going on and I didn't disappear from being overwhelmed. But I mostly just listened to people talk. But the point is I got through it and we're going again next week, I think the people are nice and my husband looked like he had a good time also.
So now we hopefully are on our way to making some new improved "relationships" with people away from just Caroline's friends at work. Hopefully that will be a good thing.