I happen to have the privilege of knowing Whitney personally. You will never meet a stronger or more caring individual. Though it's cliche, it's true: She is beautiful both inside and out. I admire her and I am honored to be her friend.

Whitney, you certainly are a resilient and positive spirit. Congratulations on beating the odds and on your new life pursuing your masters & teaching & working (though I wonder is that a LOT of pressure??)And I can't believe your husband wasn't supportive and at your side, and that being the case you're better off without him; though I know what divorce is like, divorcing my 1st after 5 years when our daughter was 2. Even when you know it's for the best, it hurts.Thank God for your friends and your parents. Times such as these prove who you can count on. (You're in Mktg right? not English...ref my poor grammar)....I've begun posting under chronic pain, Fibromyalgia, "My Life with Fibromyalgia", and in the two months of tests to get dx'd and the following months and years, I constantly had the support of my mother, who worked full time, and who would drop everything and come to me if I had an 'episode' and accompanied me to teh doctor's and tests. And took care of me, bodily at times. I can only imagine how alone and abandoned you felt with nobody there with you for the 'tests' and 'procedures'. I tried to fake it while my daughter, 11, was home & up, saving my energy for the dinner/eve. Having Mom's total support and unconditional love from Mom & Jen and my Faith got me through the worst of it. (and my fathers' love though he didn't understand and wanted me back at work(we worked together, CPA's).And you sweet girl were only 26?! I was 35 and I now know at 41 how young that was. Hmmm at 26, I was divorcing during tax season with a 2 year old who got chicken pox on April 14. Life's not always a picnic.And I'll schedule my GYNO appt today; it's just been 15 mos but due to my mammogram they'd wanted to see me back in 6 mos.....oops. Scheduling both today, thank you for reminding me!I look forward to reading more from you.Hugs and Blessings, Judy
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When I feel this way I listen to the Norah Jones song "Humble Me, Lord". It kind of puts things into perspective even if it doesn't solve the problems.

That's a great suggestion - I'll try to find it tonight! Thanks!

Hi again sweet Whitney,Oh I know the I'm single and 30 blues....had been divorced, had a child, and lived back with my folks, and worked so much I probably couldn't have had a relationship (which proved true for 12 years post divorce). So I had baggage too. Not the same baggage by any means, but baggage all the same.I thank God daily for my daughter, Jennifer now 18. For the marriage that produced her even though it turned out to be a mistake. And for the 3 brothers that her father and step-mom had so that my Jen isn't alone in the world when I'm gone. (I adore and love those boys! See, I always thought I'd have 3 kids, 3 girls. Well I've got Jen's bros vicariously through her(though they live in NY w/ their mom (Jen's dad died of a stroke 10/2000 at age 37 in perfect health, when Jen was 13 & her bros 9,8 & 6), and when I was 36, I got 2 more girls via my husband, 15 & 16, though they live in Maine w/ their mom.Your comments on having always thought you'd adopt rang so familiar in my head. Even after my divorce and through 12 years of no dating (too busy to meet anyone, and everyone I knew was taken) and when I thought my life was laid out before me with just me & jen (& her bros), Frank came along and gave me my other 2 daughters. And I adore/love them, and I believe they do me. We enjoy our annual visits and weekly calls and emails. In fact, the older daughter now has 2 2/3 children, my granddaughter 2, grandson 1, & invitro granddaughter due in October. That one does spin my head I have to admit.I'm so excited for your GF and her BF and the pending engagement. Don't let her read this over your shoulder!Have a glorious GTT weekend!And hey kiddo, it would be abnormal for you to not have moments where you realize you were screwed by all of this and that somethings just suck.Finding that guy advice from the 12 year celibate:(LOL)Whitney, you take care of you, do what you enjoy, be with people who add joy and color to your life, and one day you'll be face to face with the person you may have thought didn't exist. And maybe when you are stronger you will come across that opportunity dreamt of to adopt a child, before or after Mr Right makes an entrance into your world. Just seek PEACE and find JOY and share LOVE and life may just surprise you.Hugs again, Judy
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TITLE: The Beginning
AUTHOR: Whitney Dye
DATE: 7/21/2004 08:28:24 AM

Hey Whitney,I'm still waiting to hear how your girlfriend weekend went.....And to hear how you're spending your last couple of months of being 29...I turn 42 this year.....at least it's an even #, I like those best (no not numerology, I was an accountant and just developed an affinity for certain #'s)BTW, 30 is pretty cool...even, evenly divisible by 6 and 5, etc. and a major 10 spot age (10, 20, 30)I hope you are doing okay and look forward to reading more here.Hugs and Blessings, Judy
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TITLE: Single Again
AUTHOR: Whitney Dye
DATE: 7/30/2004 01:41:37 PM

DATE: 7/22/2004 03:32:06 PM
I am in the 'Skin' section of these blogs and was browsing through the journals when I read your entry. Thank you very much for sharing your story. It makes me appreciate life a little more. Keep us posted on how things are going.