January 5, 2005

Personal Bio

I am a 36 year old married white female with two children. I am a Sagittarius, I read tarot cards. I am politically liberal with Michael Moore counted among my heros. I work in the financial industry of debt collection and have done that for almost five years now. It is an enormousy stressful job as no one is happy to hear from you and even fewer people acknowledge their own sense of responsibility for winding up in my office.

I am married for the second time, my first marriage ended as a result of my former husbands addiction to drugs, alcohol and his propensity towards violence. I did attend several meetings of a battered womens support group as well as indiviual counseling and ultimately volunteered for a time with the domestic abuse shelter in the area I was living in.

I was a child of a violent marriage that too ended in divorce when I was fourteen. I recieved both of my step parents in 1984. My step-father in July of 84 and my step-mother in October of 84. Both of my parents seem much happier in their second choices than they were in their first.

I have one natural brother from my parents marriage and one gift given brother from my step-mothers prior marriage. I have two neices from the gift given brother and two neices from my marriage, as well as two nephews from my marriage.

I was also blessed with two step-daughters from my first marriage both of whom are still in my life and I hope always will be-I also have a wonderful wife-in-law from the first marriage and she and I are fortunate that we never blamed the other we simply acknowledged we had made bad choices for a first husband-LOL.

I gave birth to four children however due to some really bad judgement on my part I only have two of them now, the other two reside with my mother and my step-father. So as you can probaly gather I grew up in what I affectionately now refer to it as "dysfunction junction". And unwittingly continued some of the bad patterns in my life for quite some time. There have been many periods of darkness in my life while I was searching for whatever it was I felt was missing from it. It seemed I spent the early years of my life trying to get away from the pain which included alot of self-medicating. I have several regrets of course however I can honestly say that I have made an incredible effort to overcome the adversity and have learned some tough life lessons which I blame for making me a much more compassionate empathetic person than I might have been if circumstances had been different.

Posted by Lisa on January 5, 2005 1:36 PM