creating an internal contract
I might be on to something.
Starting last night (out of desperation, and with a little luck), I started working on a contract for everyone inside-- a sort of who's who list, and who will do what-- and so far, everyone's been agreeable. I'm delegating. I can't do all this by myself anymore. I'm going to have to start relying on some of the other adults in the system who are just as capable to help me take care of things. I've been talking to people and doing some research on "setting up operating systems". Different multiple systems have various ways of operating inside, such as govermental systems, court systems, family systems. I'm sort of going along the family system approach, that seems to be most appropriate.
Trying to figure out who can help out with the kids the most, who is best at what job.
I'm trying to get it all down on paper, into words, to explain it.
Then get everyone inside to sign it, to show that all are in agreement. This way we can all see it, and can all refer back to it if problems come up.
And actually I'm a little surprised, because I suggested that maybe Nobody could work with one of the kids in particular that she seems to haev a good bond with, and she actually seems anxious to do that job. I'm surprised. And I told her it'd be a really important job. (And I'm thinking, if she feels like she's doing something important, maybe she will stop being suicidal? that would certainly make me feel better)
I have to head off to work right now. But everyone seems to be working inside...hopefully to work this out... I really want this to work,because things really need to get better organized inside, some sort of system has to be developed, before I lose my mind.
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